#1 Watch or Listen To "It's Not Just About You"
Consider this Sunday morning’s lesson. You can listen here: http://bit.ly/1gCDfNL
Or watch here [video will be posted by Monday each week]: www.vimeo.com/rrcoc
What stuck out to you as interesting?
Did you encounter any challenging or re-orienting truth?
#2 They're Watching...
Share a specific time you noticed something about your parents' relationship--good or not-so-good.
If you're married with kids, share a time you noticed that your kids were watching how you and your spouse interact with one another--good and/or not-so-good.
- How did/does knowing this make you feel?
- What's good about the way kids are shaped by their parents' marriage?
- How might those of us who are married be more intentional about leaning into this reality for our children's good?
#3 'Til Kids Do Us Part
Justin mentioned that parents often elevate the importance of their devotion to their kids above the importance of their devotion to their spouse.
- Have you found this to be an easy mistake to make?
- If so, why do you think that's the case?
- If a couple did this (devoted themselves to their children, but not to one another) year after year, what are a few consequences they might experience?
- What are a few consequences their children might experience?
For those who are married, what can you do to guard against this tendency? If you're already doing something, share that with the group.
If your group has singles and married couples, you might consider taking some time this week or next to allow the singles an "ask us anything" time with those who are married. Get vulnerable and share some wisdom.
- You might also consider doing the same thing with younger couples asking questions to an older couple in the group.
#5 Second Chance
If you didn't meet last week and missed this video, consider watching it together this week. (http://vimeo.com/youandmeforever/httpvimeocom3marriages).
- Check last week's discussion guide for some prompts to get you talking about what you saw: http://www.rrcoc.org/discussionguide/2015/2/1/in-this-together-part-2-we-work